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you don't like being recorded on camera. That awkward feeling when you switch on the camera, you press the record button and you feel awkward and not know what to say and how to talk. Maybe you don't like your accent or the way you look, or you forget the things that you needed to say.
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Unknown
And because of all of this, you don't record the video that you actually want to do for others. So what is the secret of being confident in front of a camera? Is it something that you're just born with? Is it something that only extroverted people have? Which means that you're doomed if you're not one of those? This is exactly the question that I've asked my wife after she produced more than 300 videos on our first YouTube channel.
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Unknown
And even if she is bubbly and friendly and upbeat as a person, she struggled on being confident on camera. But she's going to share a mental switch That happened at a specific moment after publishing videos that she felt very awkward about that changed everything. But let's hear it from her.
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Unknown
Today. I wanted to invite my wife here, which is going to be part of this channel. And because we've built a YouTube channel in the past, since 2016, that's called Lazy Answer tapes and the host of the show, it's my wife. I wanted to bring her in with me to talk about a few things that I want to ask you, because I want to help people that haven't had your experience yet.
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Unknown
They might want to hear what you have to say about things that now we take for granted. But at the beginning were very tough. This is Alecia and we are happily married. I'm not smiling just because I need to. Here's how it's going to work. I'm going to ask you some questions about what I know you've been either struggling or improved upon and your zone of genius, let's say.
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Unknown
Can I say something? It's really weird that, you know, this time it's your generation and it's not mine. It's like we are like I'm entering a world of the unknown. Chris is always being very interesting in my channel, and you're in the background, and now it's the other way around. You are the face and shadow in front of the camera, being all super bubbly and confident and seeing you here that your you are wanting to help others, trying to do what we've actually done and build a online business and give them tips and insights in the struggles and the happy places that we've been to.
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Unknown
So it's nice. It's beautiful to have you finally in front of the camera and finally having a place to shine. Look, I've even set up the whole lounge for us to talk about what we've done in the past I think is incredible. I feel like I want to ask you a few things and also know I need to say this first, because I do feel that without you, nothing like this would have ever happened.
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Unknown
So I am the most grateful person in this world to you for pushing me to do something that it was very uncomfortable. Very uncomfortable. Likewise, without you, none of this would have happened either. So high five. Okay, enough with this self celebration here. But thank you. My darling is so nice and kind. And now we are publicly sharing the stage.
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Unknown
That's incredible. About. You mentioned being bubbly on camera and all of that and it's actually related to my first question for you, because I know you you are naturally bubbly and friendly, but have you always been this bubbly and confident and easygoing in camera as well, or did you struggle? I like that question. But like that very much, because people think that you are you know, you must be a natural, you must be a natural in person and having people skills and the fact that you've got people skills, it's automatically translated in what you do on camera.
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Unknown
But the funny thing is, talking in front of a camera is actually scary, especially when you don't know who's going to be on the other side. To answer quickly to your question, no, I haven't been so confident and bubbly in front of the camera since the beginning. I was very afraid of the judgment of people and the industry of ballet and other students and teachers and big people in the ballet world would think, because I've always been in a way, judged.
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Unknown
And as a dancer, you judged yourself every single day. Whenever you get into the studio in front of the mirror, it becomes part of you. So the first reaction that you have, even if you are if you're not so self aware, is what are people think? What are they going to think about me? Why are the people going to say about me?
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Unknown
Is it going to be something good or is it going to be bad? Is definitely going to be something bad. Right. Right. So you're in everything about the positive outcome and that you can have a with your knowledge and sharing the experience, how much you can actually help people. So no, I haven't been so bubbly and happy and confident in front of the camera since the beginning.
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Unknown
I keep repeating this because it's very important for people to know. It took me quite a while to understand how not to mumble, what to have in mind, how to flow conversation, where I was going with what I wanted to say and make it clear. Hold on a second. But is it all about just practicing and doing it anyway, even if it doesn't feel comfortable and one day will happen?
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Unknown
I wanted to pause here because when recording videos at the beginning it feels like you are talking to a camera. But there's something that changes once you actually go through the barrier of actually publishing the videos. And this is going to happen and is going to change the way you see recording videos and put them on YouTube. And then also I think what I need is what I needed was just a few comments that said, Thank you, you help me.
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Unknown
You have given me the confidence or you've made me do things in dance in ways that nobody else has ever done. But the cool thing is you don't have to wait for messages to arrive to be confident on camera. There is a trick that you can apply before you publish even your first video. And this is got to do with imagining your audience already know who you will be talking to, what their struggles are going to be, and then being aware and open to change.
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Unknown
This audience If they reveal it to you like as happened to Alecia, it gave me confidence jumping ahead to my second. I'm sorry. Related to your audience, you now have more than 200,000 subscribers on YouTube. But at the beginning, like everyone else, you had zero. I've always been curious, like, how do you go about making videos for somebody you have no idea was going to watch?
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Unknown
You don't have an avatar in mind. You might have it, but you're not sure of it. When you started, how did you even start? Like, who did you think about when you're doing your videos? So at first, at first, the idea I had behind the channel, I think I went with what was comfortable or what I knew, what I knew about the skills that I had, the career I had, the very basics.
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Unknown
So I didn't really dig much deeper. But I said, I'm sure people kind of know how to say pointe shoes or what exercises to do, you know, I know them. I'm sure everyone else knows them. But I said, okay, I'll start with something comfortable, something that made me feel okay, that was confident, knowing what I was talking about.
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Unknown
And I decided to say, if you were a younger if you were 15 again and you started your career and you don't know what to expect from auditions, you don't know what to expect in the ballet world when you go to school. If you don't know what to expect when you get into your first job in company, I always thought it would have been nice to have a ballerina at hand where I could ask her questions and get some guidance, get some guidance from
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Unknown
And so I said, okay, I'm going to do I'm going to do these videos for my younger self. For the girl that was looking for books and videocassettes. That's how old we are.
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Unknown
Videocassettes, those cost. I know things that cost lots of money because I had to save to buy one. The video cassette there was about 100 bucks to get and I couldn't really afford it, so I had to save money. We didn't have YouTube, we didn't have Instagram, we didn't have I just had books and I had to find out a lot I want to take away in a way that struggle for my younger self.
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Unknown
And I started creating videos for that young students that I was back then and kind of gifting myself my younger self of my knowledge now. So it's almost like I kind of went back in time and started talking to her. And did you find that people that reacted to your videos were kind of like your younger self? They were like my, my, my younger self, but at my age.
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Unknown
So anyone that came around was adult dancers that wanted to do ballet. They never maybe had the possibility to do it. Maybe it's something that they put in the drawer and left it there and never went back to it, but always wanted to. There wasn't a passion, so it was interesting to see how the way you talk, the way you approach a discipline, the way you approach whatever you do, attracts different people.
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Unknown
As I said, I thought I was talking to my younger self, but obviously I wasn't. I wasn't. I'm not the kind of younger dancers wanted to do the career, correct? Correct. It's okay to start with an idea and sort of pivot halfway through. Then I think it needs to pivot. I think at first you don't really know what you're doing, so you're testing waters, You're trying as I said, you go through what is comfortable, what you know is more or less like what we're doing now.
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Unknown
We're testing waters. We see how how it works. It is like the first that we do. We don't really know how to kind of work with each other in front of the camera. We are both usually in front of the camera and you're behind the camera I like or vice versa. So it's testing waters and and then pivoting to see where the audience comes from.
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Unknown
And also what I've noticed is very interesting because a channel changes with you. It's almost if I look at if I look at the Lazarus Tips Channel when we started it, it really has all the insecurities that both we both has. It has all the struggles of putting together videos. We didn't really know who we were talking to.
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Unknown
We didn't really know what we were doing. So it was just testing waters and kind of going further and further. The confidence that I had on camera, it was non-existent. The beginning is almost like I was trying to hide myself from the camera. It was the most interesting thing when did you start gaining some of the confidence? What was the thing that made you think, maybe, maybe I'm, I'm good knowing that I had an audience on the other side, Even if it was five people, it was a few people that just replied and said, You'll help me.
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Unknown
You changed my life. It made this exercise is made me happy. Whatever you are doing is making me much more confident knowing that I was helping five, ten, 15, 20 people at the same time. And then they started growing and growing and growing. That's how I said, okay, I've got responsibility. I've got a responsibility now. I've got responsibility towards the people that are on the other side that they're waiting for me.
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Unknown
They're relying on me for the content that comes out for what I give them and for a glimpse of happiness that they are receiving their time. That's also why you gained so much traction. It's not because you had an agenda with this channel. We wanted to make it like a mainstream of income, but because we didn't know how to go about it, we just started serving people.
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Unknown
Right? And that was your all mission. The confidence on camera can be learned by switching from, my God, how am I going to be judged? Or how do I look? How do I sound into how can I help this audience that I'm in envisioning that I want to serve and I want to help?
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