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Unknown
When I started recording video, I felt like Sheldon in fun with flags. Hello. I'm Dr. Sheldon Cooper. Welcome to Sheldon. Cooper presents Fun with Flags. But seriously, this is an issue.
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Unknown
If you don't feel comfortable in front of a camera, your audience will sense that and will trust you less. You will have less presence and less power in your message. So I decided to ask Alicia, my wife. She comes from the show business world. She's been on stage for her whole life musical theater shows, on ballet shows, as principals, as a soloist.
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Unknown
She's done it all, and she's also sung in another language when she required. She's insanely good at that. So I wanted to ask her some advice on how help you if you feel you look awkward on camera and how to have a better presence.
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Unknown
A friend. This is Iacopo and Alessia.
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Unknown
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Unknown
If I think of you and how far you've come with your way of presenting yourself on camera, I'm thinking my coaching clients, they have some thoughts and they're a little bit afraid on presenting themselves. They don't know how to present themself on camera. And I know because you come from the musical theater world, you've been on stage for the majority of your life.
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Unknown
You know how to look radiant and big under the spotlight. Then, after transitioning into video, you've learned how to translate that skill into video. What tips can you give to somebody that just pulled the camera? Because I've been reading reviews on which camera to use for YouTube. Now they need to record stuff and they feel insecure. They don't feel they look good on camera.
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Unknown
What have you got for them? That's the interesting. The very first step I've got is something that you've just mentioned is about embracing the stop the reason moment. Whenever you start, you don't know what you're doing, you don't know what you're talking about, you don't know. It's almost it's almost as and this has happened and this has happened because I remember when I did my very first show of musical theater, I got the job.
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Unknown
I was a 19 year old ballerina that just came out of school. And I said, okay, I've never really I've never done musical theater. I really like it. I don't know how to sing. But they told me that I've got a very good singing voice, so maybe I can work on it. You know, maybe there is something I can do.
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Unknown
So the horrible things that would happen to me on stage or just before going on stage when it was in the wings and I always felt it. I couldn't speak. I was a very good dancer, so I knew I was anxious, maybe a little bit agitated. I had that stage fright. I always battled the stage fright with just get out there, get on the lights and do it.
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Unknown
The adrenalin is high, is very high, and that's what happens. I mean when you're in front of the camera, but once you get in, it almost becomes a quiet C It's a very interesting feeling. You forget about everyone that is in the audience that's dancing, that's that. That's a skill that I acquired after 20 years of just getting thrown on stage, I knew what my weakness was, which was I cannot talk, I cannot speak.
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Unknown
I don't want anyone to talk to me before I go on stage. And so just breathe it breathing calmly. But this time, when I had to sing in front of 2000 people, I practice and I practice and I practice and I practice. I did my rehearsal. I also asked the musical director to make me practice by myself on stage with no one in the audience suggested for me to get The feeling is the practice that you get.
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Unknown
You still get out there. And the first thing that happened is my throat closed. So I just came out with the squeaking, which it was horrendous. But I said, okay, so I understand that I need to practice. I need to get used to it. All right? The more I went out on stage, the more it became second nature, the more on the stage to how to breathe, the more I understood how to calm myself while talking.
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Unknown
The same thing happens when you're in front of the camera and talking to a camera. At the beginning, as I was saying, I don't know who's on the other side of the camera. I'm afraid of the judgment, but I need to practice. You got to embrace the beginning times where you record and nothing comes out and you've got to practice and practice and practice and practice and practice and rewatch it and practice over and over and over and over again until it becomes second nature, until there is a comment that also that arrives.
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Unknown
And you understand that on the other side of the camera is not a camera anymore. It's people that are listening. So you've switched the focus from you, from me, into what first to other? What can I give to others? What can I tell them? And especially there is someone out there listening because I'm over you practicing with your iPad.
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Unknown
You hear making videos like this, and I would come back home and check. They were atrocious. I couldn't even think about a topic to talk about is almost like press record blank the white canvas syndrome or process which that because when we started having actual topics, actual video titles, you started thinking, okay, this is what I'm doing. This is my mission, this is my mission.
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Unknown
I've got responsibilities. I need to teach these people. I need to be their leader. They're movement that you understand, that you need to lead people. You need to grab them by the hand and take them over to a path and lead them through a path. There is no time for you to be aware about anyone that is going to judge you.
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Unknown
You are not aware about your fears. You don't have fears anymore. You know that whatever you going to say is going to help someone else. That is way more important and that's way more powerful than thinking, I'm so worried and afraid. But the very first stage is practice, practice, practice, practice. Until it becomes natural, until it becomes part of you, until you can talk and talk and talk for hours.
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Unknown
That is the best advice I can do. But the question I had that is very related to the fear of the camera. What if it's not your camera? What if it's something that possibly is worse than that? Is the fear of not being good enough. You're putting yourself out there, let alone selling your own digital products. Who am I to be telling other people what to do?
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Unknown
How to better their lives, their relationships, how to get more money, how to improve in their skill, in their discipline. What if I don't think I'm good enough? What do you say to me? And no one is ever, ever, ever going to be perfect? But what I knew that I had was something special, a way of creating art that no one else has.
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Unknown
And it goes back into trying to find your superpower, trying to find what you quirkiness is, what makes you different, what makes you unique, and what nobody else has. The way I see dance, the way I see ballet, the way I teach it. It's a unique to me. The good thing is that the raise a marketplace for everyone, because not everyone is going to like me.
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Unknown
The way I teach, the way I talk, the way I move, the way I dance. Not everyone is going to like it, but I know that there is going to be someone that says, I'm attracted to what you do. I feel comfortable with you. It's almost like the moment I come with you. It's home, all right? It's there.
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Unknown
You might think that you're not good enough, and probably for yourself, for you. You're never going to be good enough. But what you need to see is if you say something or you give an advice or you take someone by the hand and you are a few steps ahead of this person and you help them solve a problem that they have and this person has got result.
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Unknown
You just need that person to succeed. That someone that is in front of you to succeed, to say, Wow, I've done exactly what you've done and is helping me and is making me happy, then your confidence grows. You only need to put yourself out there, do things even if they scare you and do them anyways because I think is one of the most important things you have the patience to let me try and fail and be crap in front of camera and looking at the videos that I was making on the iPad and go, my God, we're never going to go forward.
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Unknown
We never do it. We're never going to do it. See through is the fact that I said it doesn't matter how horrible I feel. Look, and I cannot come out with an idea or I cannot talk in front of the camera. I don't think I'm good enough because I've got all this doubts and self-doubt. So they come from decades of limiting belief.
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Unknown
Okay, Because I was worried about this judgment and I said, I'm not good enough to actually be in front of a camera and be a leader and be someone that can take people by the hand and support them through their journey. Even if you have a glimpse and say, You know what, I really want to try it, I think you need to do whatever it takes, even if it's scary.
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Unknown
You need to get out there. You need to push yourself. You need to walk the fire and say, I know it's going to burn. I know it's going to burn, it's going to hurt. Is going to be scary, but I am going to do it anyways. So the burn is the indication. You're going towards the right, you are going towards the right thing.
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Unknown
If it feels soft and nice and soft kitty warm kiss, it means that you are staying exactly in the same comfortable position for the moment. It doesn't scare you. It means that not a challenge. It's not a challenge and whenever someone tells it, that's a good thing. So whenever that someone tells us how you need to do this thing, is that woo and this butterflies kind of come in your stomach.
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Unknown
There is this feeling you go, I really don't want to do it, but I think I should do it. I need to do I have to do it because I'm so scared. But it's also the fact that whenever you are doubting yourself, you're scared to do it. You'll feel that everything is so tight around you. So mind you just go for it.
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Unknown
You got to push it, you got to push it, you got out, you got to just jump. It's almost like you're jumping into the unknown and it must be done. As scary as it is, I totally agree with that because we felt that I know it. And the way I see it is like you need to go and grab the proof that you are good enough because telling yourself you are it's not going to be enough.
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Unknown
At least for me, empowering statements don't work because I feel like I'm asking myself and it might be okay in the moment if I need to go and speak with somebody that scared about. I can just do like some power moves and pretend I'm Superman or whatever they do where they do work. But I really believe deep inside that you're good enough to just do whatever you said before, but go and grab the proof that you are because you've done this thing.
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Unknown
That was scary. Then do it again. If it's not enough. And then again. And again. And again and again. After a while, we are in our home speaking about this stuff and this set. That's insane. What you can accomplish from I have no idea how to do a video and be coherent into not being coherent. Maybe, but still trying it out and try and give some value to other people.
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Unknown
I love it. Thanks so much for all the beautiful things you said about what was done. I think we helped somebody out hoping. We hope so. I hoping walking. We help somebody. Thank you for the nice things you said about me, which was the reason why I created all this. I literally cannot wait for what's coming next. I know there is going to be a big chapter of our life coming up, especially if we start here.
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Unknown
We start it together, and I look forward to it. I look forward to every up and downs that is going to come our way. Thank you for having me. And thank you for. It's a pleasure. The fun times
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Unknown
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