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Yes, You weren't supposed to be here. But since this is how to survive in business as a couple, it's good that we do this together. Okay, That's going to be tough. Yeah, you could do it, too. Let's jump right in.
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Unknown
And
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Unknown
The only thing I would say is that I quit my job in 20, 21 month before our lockdown in London and to go for full time on this online project that we did. Lazy Dancer Tips is now doing great.
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Unknown
We got to share a 47 square meter apartments, pretty much 24 seven working there, living there, everything there. So we survived. So it stood together. Well, 2024 almost, and we still managed to still love each other and make everything work. So we wanted to share with you the five main things we did. Do not kill each other, each other.
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Unknown
The funny thing is, when we started Lazy Dance Tips, there wasn't a net. It was very immediate and we didn't have any trouble with it because I had my own thing. It had this thing. No one was stepping on each other's toes. The good thing is that you do know how to dance, and I obviously had to teach our people how to dance, and I had absolutely no idea on any of the technical things on the computers, cameras.
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Unknown
And so that was your domain. So that definition of the role for at least dance steps, it was a very easy thing is it got a little bit harder when we opened our new business, which is profitable talent, understanding what to do. Our skills started to overlap a little bit. Did you get to pick up some of the things that the other one knows best and then you want to say something about you want to have your final word on it.
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Unknown
So the very important thing that you need to do as a first rule of thumb is define your role is you need to take ownership of what your role is. You are going to be there to be blamed if something is not right. I don't suggest to blaming, but that's what happens. Just define it specifically because it's going to save your life, your marriage, your race, your relationship.
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Unknown
When things are clear from the get go, it's always the husband's fault. Anyway, that's a given. Number two, super important sanity. Tip number to give each other space. It doesn't matter if you live in a 47 square meter apartment, like with it, you really have to give each other space. Find time to get out of the house, do something totally different.
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Unknown
I mean, sometimes I get the cue when you spend way too much time gardening and I'm thinking, okay, she definitely needs some time for herself to clear her mind. Whatever it is. I feel from you that you need your space That's so important because if you respect each other's space, you gain respect to when you need space. And I think it's the best way to recharge, especially if we would leave and work together.
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Unknown
Our rule number three, to survive in business as a couple is we discovered it the hard way. Communication. But what does it mean? It sounds like we are talking. What we're not really communicating. And what does that mean? As a man I used to. I am still doing that. Keep a lot of the conversation within my head. And I assume people just understand it.
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Unknown
Like you understand exactly what has to be done and when, which is clearly not possible for anyone. Same applies to you, my darling. So what we had to what we had to had to had to find was a system to define how to tell each other what we were going to work on every day. And you came up with it because apparently I wasn't helping.
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Unknown
So you think you read a book where you found the system where we would organize our week based on each other needs and the way we wanted to run each day so that we knew by design what we had to work every day, every half a day. I didn't know how to say it, but I'm very direct and sometimes a little bit mean.
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Unknown
And it turns out that round and it says, Why do you have to be so mean? What have I done to you to actually deserve this? But in my head out there, I feel you all right now. I'm not sorry, but it is. I know, but it is about understanding what makes him tick and go out of the hand.
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Unknown
No, And especially what it made me go off the handle. I'm learning how to treat you as well. Or every day. I know what drives you insanely mental. Sometimes I forget it's a game of trying to really understand each other because what you want to say, it's not necessarily what comes out of your mouth most of the time.
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Unknown
The fourth life saving trick that we used is to have a shared calendar so that every time we speak with somebody, we want to fix an appointment of any kind, work related, personal related. We are both on the same page and we don't get surprises with, birthday parties or dinners or catch up with who's that guy again?
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Unknown
We have something in common and we don't even ask each other, Shall we do it Thursday or Monday? Because we know what happens throughout the whole week which check the calendar. If it's free, it's free. We both know it and that's great. We both have a work schedule so we know exactly what happens on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday and Friday.
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Unknown
Sometimes we've got a little bit more free time, Sometimes whenever our brain is not working and we say, okay, today is a no day, it's okay. It's on the standard worries about loving ourselves as well, and that's why we decided to have a business. It comes with lots of pros and lots of cons, but it is about also understanding when to take a break and when not to to be 100% the next day.
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Unknown
Survival tip number five, which is a very important one, especially if you're working from home, the finding certain space for work. It's a very important thing. We never talk about to work in our bedroom or we never talk about work in our playroom. Let's define playroom because otherwise this is going to be a playroom. A.K.A The cave is a where we have our entertainment.
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Unknown
Everything that happens in there, it's about chilling in there. stop it. It's about chilling. It's about having free time. It's about unwinding. Because if we start working, everything kind of mashes together. So it's like you never stop. It feels like you never stop. So this is a very important to define a room for your work in the house.
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Unknown
Okay, so we never had big homes. Let's Nature of Europe, welcome to Europe. This is what it is like. We we lived and worked in a 47 square meter apartment. So that was a matter of understanding when to work and where to work. It's very important not only to have a space, a very dedicated space to work, but also defining working hours because otherwise, not only you think that you always work because that you are in the space in a working related space, but also you never stop talking about it, even if you are very passionate about what you do and your business.
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Unknown
There have to be times where you need to wind down if you're inspired. Yes, I get it. But there are times very defined hours where you don't take a coaching course, you don't reply to the phone. The only reason why you reply to that phone is to set up meetings with your friends and go out and chill. Otherwise, it's a constant work.
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Unknown
Guys you cannot give from an empty bucket. You have to fill in that bucket as much as possible to then be able to give back. When you're working from home, working for yourself, you never switch off. And I personally had this problem. Sometimes I still do that. I feel guilty if I don't work because I think that I could always do more and that only leads to burnout.
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Unknown
And by forcing ourself to say, okay, Saturday and Sunday we don't work. We only work if we decide we want to because we are excited by has to be an active decision. Otherwise we do whatever we want. I love it. And then mental switch and just not being in the room where you work, being somewhere else and feeling okay about it because we agreed that that's how it's going to go.
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Unknown
It's incredibly freeing and it allows you to relax. Finally,
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